It’s moving season: Keeping your relationship strong and finances in check during this hectic time

 

 

KODIAK, Alaska – Professional movers do all of the heavy lifting during a Kodiak-based Coast Guard family’s move to their next duty station June 11, 2012. For families like the Lally’s, having professional movers help with their change of station eases stress during what could be a busy time. U.S. Coast Guard photo by Petty Officer 3rd Class Jonathan Klingenberg.

KODIAK, Alaska – Professional movers do all of the heavy lifting during a Kodiak-based Coast Guard family’s move to their next duty station June 11, 2012. For families like the Lally’s, having professional movers help with their change of station eases stress during what could be a busy time. U.S. Coast Guard photo by Petty Officer 3rd Class Jonathan Klingenberg.

Moving can put a strain on even the strongest of relationships. Not only are you stressed about all the things you need to do, but you also may feel emotional about leaving the place you call home. During the move, it’s more important than ever for you and your partner to work together as a team. The following information can help you find ways to keep your relationship strong during the stresses of your next move.

Keep the lines of communication open

Good communication is key at any time in your relationship, but during a move it becomes even more important. Couples often need to work at staying connected during stressful times. These tips can help:

•    Take time out for each other. Just talking and sharing emotions with your partner can help relieve some of the strain of a move. Make sure you face any emotional hurdles together and are open and honest about how you are feeling. Carving out the time may be difficult, but it is well worth the effort and one of the most important things you can do as a couple.

•    Recognize that this may be a difficult move. If you’re leaving a duty station your partner is particularly fond of, realize that it can be hard to say goodbye. Be supportive and help your partner find ways to connect with friends before you leave.

•    Work together. You may need help getting your to-do list completed or helping your child cope with the transition. Either way, it’s important to talk with your partner about the problems and work together to find solutions.

•    Maintain your daily routines as much as possible. Whether it’s a Friday night date or pizza night with the children, try to keep your routines intact. These rituals will help keep you grounded.

•    Celebrate your new home. Once you arrive at your new duty station, make it special by planning something fun. You might try organizing a party to meet the neighbors or a visit to a nearby attraction.

Get organized

Planning ahead will help minimize difficulties during a move. These techniques have worked for many military families:

•    Set up a calendar. You may want to use an electronic calendar or a hard-copy calendar. Either way, make sure you both have access to it so you can keep up with what’s going on and when.

•    Create a command center. This is a central location for details such as to-do lists, important papers and other documents related to your move. Make sure both you and your partner understand how this area is set up so you can use it to manage the details of your move.

•    Prioritize your to-do lists. With so many things to do, it can be hard to know where to start. Make an “A” list with your most important must-dos, a “B” list and a “C” list. That way, you’ll know what to focus on first. Because you and your partner may have different priorities, it’s important to work together to include those things that are important to each of you. Work with a CG SUPRT Health and Wellness coach to help set a list of goals you need to accomplish before your move.

•    Do your research. Use the online tool at Military Installations to find information on your new installation, information on local schools and links to local websites.

•    Don’t leave it all until the last minute. Start on tasks as soon as you have orders to your new duty station. Much of the stress during a move can be relieved by stretching out the tasks over a period of time instead of saving them for the last minute.

Keep your finances in check

Budgeting for a move is an important part of the moving process. Avoid any issues ahead of time by putting together a relocation budget before your move. Be realistic and honest about your spending.

•    Create a budget. The Personal Financial Management Services can help you create a realistic plan. Be sure to budget for any unforeseen expenses.

•    Stick to the plan. Track your budget on a regular basis in order to be sure you’re sticking to it.

•    Find out about moving allowances. Check with your relocation assistance program to be sure you are taking advantage of all the moving allowances available.

Seek help if you need it

Don’t hesitate to use the following resources if you run into any bumps in the road:

•    The Relocation Assistance Program – The Relocation Assistance Program can offer one-on-one help planning your move, dealing with any special circumstances or handling any other move-related issues.

•    CG SUPRT – Visit CG SUPRT or call 855- CG SUPRT (247-8778) to find more information on moving such as locating childcare, eldercare, pet care, spouse education and careers and much more. Other beneficial services include free and confidential coaching, counseling and personal financial management.

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